The conversation around fertility and the choice of when to have children is becoming increasingly significant in the UK, reflecting a shift in societal norms and the advancement of reproductive technologies. With the average age for first-time mothers now exceeding 32, it’s evident that factors such as career pursuit, financial readiness, and personal readiness are influencing decisions about motherhood. This delay in starting a family is supported by examples from public figures like Laura Linney and Hilary Swank, who successfully had children in their late 40s, challenging the stigma associated with “geriatric” mothers. Yet, the pressure and myths surrounding women’s fertility post-30 persist, often leaving women anxious about their reproductive options.

Recent discussions have brought to light the complex realities of fertility treatments, such as egg freezing, which has seen an increase in popularity for non-medical reasons. Despite its presentation as a viable option for delaying motherhood, the success rates, with an 18% birthrate per treatment cycle from frozen eggs in 2016, reveal a different story. Concerns are being raised about how fertility clinics market these services, emphasizing affordability and social reasons over actual success rates.

Adding to the discourse, Freddy McConnell, a transgender man, shared his experience with the fertility industry, where initial medical advice suggested that testosterone treatment would limit his reproductive options. Contrary to this advice, McConnell went on to have two children through artificial insemination and donor sperm, underscoring the need for accurate and non-biased information for all individuals navigating their fertility journeys.

These narratives reveal a broader issue about the quality of information and support offered by healthcare providers, especially around fertility and reproductive health. As society progresses, there’s an evident need for more ethical, affordable, and person-centred care in the healthcare sector, ensuring that everyone has access to truthful and supportive services when making life-changing decisions about starting a family.